Authenticity Matters
It's Not Who You Are. It's What You've Had to Navigate.
Most therapists will affirm who you are. Fewer will actually talk about sex. And almost none will understand what it means to navigate the world as a gay or queer man right now.
How Gay Men Explore Their Sexual Role: Moving Beyond “Top vs Bottom”
From a clinical perspective, it’s more useful to understand sexual roles not as identities you must define early, but as experiences you come to understand through exploration. Sexuality is not just behavior—it’s tied to identity, emotion, and the meaning we make of our experiences.
Why Silence Was Adaptive Then (and Harmful Now)
Silence helped many gay men survive early rejection and invisibility. But what once protected us can quietly limit intimacy, connection, and emotional regulation in adulthood.
Sunset Blvd.
Never Stop Coming Out
In a just world, either no one would have to come out or everyone would have to come out. In the world we live in now, finding the insight, strength, and courage to come out remains a queer superpower.
Some Like It Hot: Hiding to Find Yourself
In the perfect blend of escapism and representation, the show portrays contemporary queer love and transgender experience in a period musical bursting with big dance numbers, toe-tapping tunes, door-slamming farce, and stellar performances. I saw myself onstage and lost myself in the experience at the same time.
“Authenticity Matters”
This blog is a place for me to amplify my voice and give a wider audience a chance to hear my thoughts about the intersections of identity, values, sex, relationships, therapy, and theater.