Sex Therapy for Gay and Queer Men

AASECT-certified. Gay-owned practice. Stamford, CT and online.

Most therapists will affirm who you are. Fewer will actually talk about sex. I'm Matthew K. Phillips, an AASECT-certified sex therapist and gay man in Stamford, CT. I work with gay and queer men on the things that are hardest to say out loud. In person and online.

Who I Work With

  • Gay & Queer Men

    You don't have to explain yourself before the work begins. I work with gay and queer men on identity, shame, sexuality, and the particular terrain of building a life that actually fits.

    This is me

  • Gay Male Couples

    Two men in a relationship face dynamics that most couples therapists don't fully understand. I work with gay and queer male couples on communication, sexual connection, relationship agreements, and everything in between..

    Make It

  • Relationships

    The goal is not to solve all of your problems. The goal is to enhance empathy and communication so that you can learn to solve problems together.

    Make It

Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy

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Meet your therapist.

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Matthew K. Phillips, PhD, MEd, LCSW, CST

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My Blog: “Authenticity Matters”

Blog
It's Not Who You Are. It's What You've Had to Navigate.
It's Not Who You Are. It's What You've Had to Navigate.

Most therapists will affirm who you are. Fewer will actually talk about sex. And almost none will understand what it means to navigate the world as a gay or queer man right now.

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How Gay Men Explore Their Sexual Role: Moving Beyond “Top vs Bottom”
How Gay Men Explore Their Sexual Role: Moving Beyond “Top vs Bottom”

From a clinical perspective, it’s more useful to understand sexual roles not as identities you must define early, but as experiences you come to understand through exploration. Sexuality is not just behavior—it’s tied to identity, emotion, and the meaning we make of our experiences.

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Why Silence Was Adaptive Then (and Harmful Now)
Why Silence Was Adaptive Then (and Harmful Now)

Silence helped many gay men survive early rejection and invisibility. But what once protected us can quietly limit intimacy, connection, and emotional regulation in adulthood.

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Perspectives on My Work