Sex Therapy for Gay and Queer Men
AASECT-certified. Gay-owned practice. Stamford, CT and online.
Most therapists will affirm who you are. Fewer will actually talk about sex. I'm Matthew Phillips, an AASECT-certified sex therapist and gay man in Stamford, CT. I work with gay and queer men on the things that are hardest to say out loud. In person and online.
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Adolescents
Adolescence is a time of passion and exponential growth. I love seeing my teen clients become more confident, balanced and fully engaged in their lives.
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Adults
I am not afraid of big emotions or complex problems. I will sit with you as we sort out a course of action. And when you’re ready, I’ll give you a gentle push.
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Relationships
The goal is not to solve all of your problems. The goal is to enhance empathy and communication so that you can learn to solve problems together.
Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy
Meet your therapist.
Matthew K. Phillips, PhD, MEd, LCSW, CST
My Blog: “Authenticity Matters”
Blog
There’s a common belief that people are naturally tops or bottoms, as if these roles are innate traits waiting to be discovered. In reality, they are shaped over time through experience.
A person’s sexual role can be influenced by physical comfort, early encounters, emotional safety, relationship dynamics, and even internalized ideas about masculinity or desirability. For some, a role emerges quickly. For others, it evolves or shifts over time.
From a clinical perspective, it’s more useful to understand sexual roles not as identities you must define early, but as experiences you come to understand through exploration. Sexuality is not just behavior—it’s tied to identity, emotion, and the meaning we make of our experiences.