Therapy for Men
Finding the right therapist matters. For men who don't identify as gay or queer, that search can feel complicated, especially when the work involves uncomfortable emotions, sexuality, relationships, or anything that sits beneath the surface of daily life. This page is for you. Some of the men who find me are heterosexual. Some are questioning or don't have a label. Men are not defined by their sexual desires or the gender of their partners. What the men who find me share is a willingness to show up and do something real.
Why a Gay Therapist
When men arrive, some carry a quiet hesitation: will a gay therapist understand what my life is actually like? That hesitation usually resolves quickly.
Many men describe feeling free from the pressure to perform the version of themselves they bring to other parts of their life. The therapy room is a different kind of space. There is no peer dynamic to navigate, no sense of being sized up by someone operating from the same cultural script. Some men find it easier to open up here than with a female therapist who does not live in the same type of body and hasn’t grown up with the same social expectations. Others find it easier than talking to a straight male therapist for the same reason they'd hesitate to open up to a male friend. As a gay man, I sit outside the straight male peer dynamic, making difficult conversations possible here.
I bring more depth and clinical comfort around sexual wellness than most generalist therapists, and I bring it without judgment.
On Masculinity
Masculinity is not the problem. The cultural scripts that sometimes surround it are the culprits. Scripts that don't leave room for emotional expression, vulnerability, or asking for help. Scripts that can make a man feel like something is wrong with him for feeling sad, stressed, or uncertain. Scripts that create silence exactly where conversation is most needed.
The men who work with me are willing to go beneath the surface. They don't have everything sorted out. They have a willingness to understand their inner lives more completely, and they are ready to do something with what they find.
Understanding yourself and expressing what you feel are not signs of weakness. In most areas of life they are the hardest and most courageous things a man can do.
What We Work On
The concerns men bring to therapy are wide ranging. Some of the most common include sexual connection with a partner, including navigating desire differences, erectile dysfunction, or a partner's low desire. Stress at work and how it bleeds into relationships and home life. The experience of feeling emotions deeply and wondering if that is compatible with being the man they want to be. Parenting, family dynamics, and the relational complexity that comes with them.
For men navigating depression or anxiety that hasn't responded to talk therapy alone, ketamine-assisted psychotherapy may be worth exploring as part of our work together.
We can work together to address the challenges that most men bring through the door.
Who This Is For
Men who are ready to talk without having to perform. Men navigating something in their relationship or sex life they haven't been able to say out loud. Men who feel things deeply and haven't had a place to bring that.
You are welcome here. You don't need to be strong or have it figured out. You just need to show up and begin